We may set goals and work hard only to find our motivation goes astray.
The Two Motivators
We are motivated by two things:
- To avoid pain (fear of failure)
- To gain pleasure (promise of reward)
You will move towards these motivators. To know which one, remember the last time you finished a task and then ask yourself the following: what were you thinking Whilst doing the task?
Make a note of which motivator works for you – fear of failure, or promise of reward.
Set Your Goal: The first step towards motivation is to know your goal.
You may relate to one of the following goals:
- You need to lose weight for your health.
- You want to look and feel great
- You’re worried about your kids food and drink intake.
Train Your Mindset for Weight Loss:
Take a moment to look at your current eating habits. Look at the foods that you could stop eating (fried, refined carbohydrates, fizzy drinks). Look at the worst food that you eat but know you shouldn’t.
Now look at the healthy foods that you could eat (vegetables, fruits, and lean protein). Find the healthiest foods that you know you should eat often.
Now with the vision of these two foods in mind, find a place and do this exercise.
- Draw up the image of your unhealthy food. This image will likely be quite nice, with smell, taste and bright color. In your mind, remove this picture to black and white and distance the image until it is unattractive and dull
- Draw up the image of your healthy food item. This image will likely be un attractive. In your mind, bring this picture to life with great taste and texture.
Regular Exercise: The following technique can be used in a way that makes you want exercise rather than avoid it.
Take a moment to wonder how you feel after a great workout. Remember the feel good factor.
Now feel what you don’t like about exercise. What is your biggest reason for not exercising? Are you too tired? Not enough time? What is your greatest complaint about exercise.
Now with the vision of these two aspects of exercise in mind, find a place and do this exercise:
- Draw up the image of your exercise complaint. The image is likely to be clear and accompanied by the enjoyment, and sensations. In your mind, remove this picture to black and white and distance the image until it is boring and not attractive
- Draw up the image of the great feeling you have after finishing a great workout. visualise this image in your mind. Fixate on how you feel physically, mentally and emotionally. View the experience in excitement and feeling of accomplishment.
How this Works
if this was your first experience with training your mind (also called Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP) it may have felt a little funny. Many of the world’s top success stories use techniques like these to accomplish goals.